Updated: Apr 13, 2022
Single and Lonely
Sometimes the hands of loneliness pushed me into relationships and love. Sometimes loneliness was a projector that showed me things I thought were missing in my life. Sometimes loneliness was a bottomless pit. However loneliness presented itself to me, I didn't allow it to break me. While being in the depths of loneliness I realized that I shouldn't be searching for company or companionship.
Loneliness can be a time for self. Self love, Self control, self confidence, and self esteem
Tip #1 - Self Love
I was kind to myself.
I gave myself some grace.
I ate healthy.
I exercised often.
Tip #2 - Self Control
I battled urges, vices, and temptations with prayer.
I practiced abstinence.
I started of setting small goals for myself. ( I knew that if I could go a day without something then surely I could last a week without it)
Tip #3 - Self Confidence
I wrote many positive and encouraging affirmations on sticky notes and placed them on my television screen. I recited those affirmations every morning and night.
I watched motivational videos.
I challenged myself to get out of my comfort zone.
Tip #4 - Self Esteem
I cut my hair on the regular. ( at some point I let my hair and beard grow wild like weeds)
I stopped depriving myself and bought new shoes and clothes.
I helped other with tasks.
I complimented myself when I did a good job or deed.
I Found Myself
Although the single life was lonely, I took that time to rebuild and find myself. I worked on my side effects and learned things about myself. I shifted my focus on God and eventually the love that I was searching for found me.